Communication BUT not excessive communication – it is unwise to be overdo, sticky and possessive. You don’t have to communicate 24 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples thought that they need excess communication, this is not true. It might make things worse. Remember less is more. It is not about spamming – you are only going to exhaust yourselves. It’s really testing at the right moment & tugging at the right spots
See it as an opportunity – IF YOU WANT TO LIVE TOGETHER, YOU FIRST NEED TO LEARN HOW TO LIVE APART
view it as a test of your love for each other. As the saying goes, real gold us not afraid of test of fire instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience the both of you will be bound together even strong
Set some ground rules – Both of you need to have clear with what you expect of with each other during this period. Set some rules so that one will not do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on date? What Is your commitment level? It is better to be open with each other about all these things to keep the relationship going
Try to communicate regularly & creatively – greet each other good morning and good night everyday, this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and it’s happening, however mundane some of the things may seem. To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips, short video from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to
Talk dirty with each other – this simply means be romantic to each other by giving pets names, expressing feelings of each other, open your mouth to say you love him or her, expressing how you always feel when talking to each other, you can even say you want him or her now now.
Do things together – i love this aspect so much. Playing an online games together, watch a documentary on YouTube or films at the same time, sing to each other on call or video chat, take a walk together outside while video calling each other, go online shopping together and buy each other gift online too…. Lol. You really have to be creative and spontaneous about it
Make visit to each other – visit are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally got to meet each other to fulfil all the saying, affections etc. It will be like firework, glitter bombs, confelt, rainbows and butterflies to everyone around
Have a goal in mind – goals like what do we want to achieve at the end of the day? How long are we going to be apart? What about the future? These are the questions you need to ask yourselves. The truth is no couple can be in long distance relationship forever, eventually we all need to settle down
Stay honest with each other – talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. Don’t try to deal with things yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during it’s initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late
Learn how to ask good questions and listen well – This is very important and am good at this. Ask your partner what you need to know, by doing this you will gat to know things about him or her very well. Learn to listen carefully to your partner and good questions.
Learn more about how you both approach conflict – conflict is inevitable in relationship but being in a long distance relationship make managing conflict well even more difficult. Learn some basic conflict management strategies and discuss them with your partner before you find yourself mid-fight
Controlling of jealousy – feeling a little jealous and again is not unusual in long distance relationship. However uncontrolled jealousy can lead to destructive condemnation of suspicion, possessiveness, insecurity, anger and shame. If you are feeling jealous figure out how to control your jealousy before it start to control you. It’s not easy but it can be done
Laugh together – it’s a great to talk about the deep stuff but make sure you keep it light sometimes too. Share things with each other that can make you laugh together
Keep your parnter in your mind alway – we have all heard the saying ” absence can make the heart grow fonder but its also true that absence can make the mind go wander” make sure you have some reminders of your partner around perhaps put their photo on your desktop or tape it to your mirror, drink out
Prayers – i can’t forget that prayer is the key to every successful relationship today. Pray together, fast together infact worship together